4 Ways to Not Constantly Think About the Future

If you’re anything like me, you’re a planner – and that means constantly planning what you’ll be doing this upcoming weekend, next weekend, and when you’re going to move into your own apartment and get a puppy after graduation. One thing that I’ve learned from my experiences in college, studying abroad, and life in general is that life isn’t fun when you’re constantly planning and looking forward to what’s coming next. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve missed opportunities and have let things pass me by because I’m not present all the time. Don’t get me wrong there are times when it is really important to plan ahead, like applying to college or getting big assignments done before a deadline – but when it comes to life in a general sense, it’s time to learn to let go and be present.

Stop Making Plans for Every Weekend in Your Foreseeable Future 

Start thinking about what you want to do later today rather than what you’re planning on doing next weekend. By focusing on the present day you can make plans to have fun today rather than drearily going throughout the week waiting for the weekend plans to come. Trust me, it isn’t fun just ‘trying’ to make it through the week. Also, if you plan so much all the time then when you do have plans you’ll only be thinking about future plans if you’re current event isn’t as fun or exciting as you had ‘planned’ it to be. Are you seeing a theme yet?

Start Meditating

This one I particularly enjoy because it forces you to focus on what’s going on around you and within you. By pushing out other thoughts and using the mental space to feel, listen, and breathe in what’s going on in the present moment, you’ll start to feel more connected with yourself and become more aware of the things that are directly around you. Here’s a meditation podcast I liked to listen to when I was just getting started: Meditation Oasis

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Make a List of Things You Love To Do… And Then Do Them

When you don’t have anything to look forward to in your day it makes it really easy to focus on what’s coming up in the future that you can look forward to. Something that has really helped me was making a list of all the things I love to do and then making sure I find time in my day to do at least one of those things. Not only will having a list like this to remind you to do the things you love, but it will also spark interest in those things when you forget it’s something you enjoy doing. Here’s some items that are on my list:

  • Journaling
  • Going for a Walk in Nature
  • Reading a Book
  • Making New Crafts for the House
  • Write a Blog Post
  • Go Outside and Take Pictures

Stop Waiting for Something Better

Has there ever been a time where you’ve regretted not taking advantage of an opportunity because you believed something better would come along? Yeah, it’s happened to all of us, but the only way to prevent that from happening again is to stop waiting. Being almost done with my undergraduate education and on my way to starting a career and living on my own, I am constantly searching around for the apartment I want to live in, the kind of dog I want to get, etc. etc. But by already having my future mapped out and by bee-lining for the future I have set in mind, I could potentially pass up a really good opportunity. Uncertainty is scary, but the greatest lesson I’ve thought myself is this:

If I have everything figured out already, then the future would simply be boring.

It’s true, something better may come along after you’ve already committed to something – but who’s to say you can’t walk away and take that other offer? The only thing you should be committed to in this life is yourself and your happiness. So open up that bottle of wine you’ve been saving for 10 years and enjoy the present moment. If something good came along once, then you haven’t used up all your luck – something good will come along again. All you have to do, is stop waiting and start living.

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Trust me when I say that this is a hard feat for me to conquer as well. During my junior year of college I had the opportunity to take a Strengths Quest test. If you don’t know what this is, it is a test designed to highlight and give you information to your top 5 strengths. Guess what my number one strength was? Futuristic Thinking. I am a planner! There is nothing more I love to do then plan things out, for myself and for other people. But by constantly being in the bubble of planning my future, I’m not experiencing my present and it’s something I really want to change. I hope some of these tips can help you take a step back from your future and start to really enjoy your present 🙂

XO,

Chanel

Home Sweet Home

Coming home to California after months of living in Washington is always a treat! My favorite part about being home is the familiarity – the routine that instantly kicks back in where I’m going to my favorite coffee shop and local mall. I wouldn’t appreciate my hometown as much if I didn’t spend so much time away from it, so if you’re thinking that your life at home is boring and you’re in need of a change then I would suggest getting away for a bit and coming back to the realization that you’re hometown is actually amazing.

PSA: this advice may not apply to those who were born outside of California (sorry!)

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The Shoppes at Chino Hills (my hometown)

So, what are the best things to do when visiting home? The priorities on my to-do list definitely include seeing family and friends! But it can be hard to figure out what places to go to when visiting those family and friends… My advice? Go somewhere new! It’s easy to go to your favorite places every time you come home (and yes I admit I get In n Out every time I come back to the good ole CA), but then visits home seem like the same trip every time – especially when your time is limited!

When it comes to activities, I always try a new place to eat! I’ve only been back at home for two days – but I’m already planning on going down to Three Thirty Three down at Newport Beach! My family is going to the beach for the day and then going out to dinner and this is the place we picked. I’ve heard many good things about it and although it’s not my favorite Mexican restaurant down the street from my house, it allows the space for new memories to be made.

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3-Thirty-3 Restaurant

Shopping is always a must at home too! I can almost guarantee that the stores in your hometown are not the same as your place of residence. Which is great sometimes and really frustrating at other times, but makes you appreciate the times when you can shop at those stores that always available. For example, Charming Charlie is a great store with fabulous accessories and jewelry for affordable prices, but there isn’t a store where I currently live. Luckily they have online shopping so I can still make my regular purchases, BUT for cute boutiques that don’t offer online shopping it can be really frustrating when you’re looking for that perfect boho/chic dress that online your local store offers.

Lastly, I know going home can be a stressful time as you have to make time to see everyone and make time for the things you want to do as well, but don’t forget to enjoy it! Going home is supposed to be a fun time to relax and remember the place that helped mold you into the person you are. Safe travels as summer comes to an end and if you didn’t get a chance to go home this summer – then holidays are just around the corner!

XOXO,

Chanel

Card Games to Play (Besides Cards Against Humanity)

Cards Against Humanity is a classic game to play with friends, especially when drinking. Of course there’s other card games like King’s Cup, but if you’re looking for more legit games that come with rules and in a box, then here are a couple to try!

Red Flags – this is one of my personal favorites! The game includes white cards which represent pleasing aspects of someone you’d like to date and then red cards which represent “red flags” or things that would make you not want to date someone. Then, each person puts together their ‘character’ for the person who is voting, which includes one two white cards and one red card. The voter must then choose which person out of their choices they would date. It’s pretty simple, but a lot of fun! Many laughs will be had if in possession of this game. Tip: there’s an expansion as well (Dark Red Flags)

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To learn more about this game click here: Red Flags

SuperFight – this game was made for people that find pleasure in arguing their own opinions (and for those that love to watch people argue). It’s a ton of fun if you can get the right crown together! Each person develops a ‘fighter’ by putting together one black card in a their hand (attribute cards) with one white card from their hand (character cards). Then, everyone lays out their fighters and argue why their fighter would win over everyone else’s. There are plenty of expansions for this game too that add either challenges, scenarios, or locations to the core deck of cards. I haven’t tried any of these yet, but I’m super excited to hopefully soon!

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To learn from about this game click here: Super Fight

I hope you guys find these games as fun as I do! I’d love to hear game night stories and what combinations came together!